The Fuck Buddy

This is my third time trying to write this by the way.

Okay, so me and Gabbi have this inside joke.

“But if I was a hoe…”

Make sure you emphasize ‘was’ by dragging it out and end it with joyous laughter.

Okay, so me and Gabbi have this joke where were describing if were hoes we would have no-strings attached sex with one of our friends.

I don’t want to ever think of myself as a hoe, I have too much self-respect for that. But I’m curious as to why these girls are flinging themselves at these guys…is the sex really that good? Are they trying out new tricks? What the hell is going on that is making these girls not give a damn about who they have meaningless sex with?

And this is the part where the joke starts to make sense. If I was a hoe, I sure would find the hell out. And I know it’s hard to be alone while you watch your friends go on dates and things of that nature, but you don’t want that for yourself? You just want him for the night and then have that awkward feeling next time you guys see each other? It’s not worth it in my opinion. I’ve seen how awkward a situation can get:

I’m talking to my friend.
His fuck buddy walks up.
She looks at me.
Looks back at him.
Walks away looking pissed.
Umm…awk-ward.

Yeah, I really don’t understand why just because he’s cute your willing to sacrifice your self-respect. Someone please explain this! It’s not like these are 30 year old divorced single mothers. These are barely 21 year old Howard University students. We have GOTS to do better.

Flex on the devil.

xoxo TiffaneyDanielle

“Who is he?”

I’m at the point where I’m ready, and no longer rebounding. But, I always find myself wondering if will he be ready. This HE I’m referring to is the next guy I will be in a relationship with. Will he be ready for my past? Instead of explaining who Zeus was..should I just let him read my blog? What if he doesn’t like the idea of blogs? What if he doesn’t understand why I blog? Do I have to explain that too? Do I have to dig deep into my past just to unlock the door to my future?

Am I really ready to be judged by someone I care about? What if he doesn’t judge you say? He’ll judge me. No doubt about that, he’ll judge me. Unless I keep everything to myself. I’ll just say Zeus is an ex and it didn’t work out. That way I save a hell of a lot of explaining. But if I can’t even communicate with him, what’s the point? Why go through the trouble of disguising my past with a band aid and a pretty little bow, just to pretend I’m who I am today for no reason at all? Okay, too many question marks.

This is difficult. Every other day I tell myself I’m ready, but the hurt me is saying “No, fuck it.” Is this how the remainder of my life is going to be? Scared to feel and love, for fear of being hurt again? I don’t know. If you would have caught me two years ago I would have had all the answers. But now I’m lost. I guess I have to just wing it.

xoxo TiffaneyDanielle

Play.

Zeus and I are off our break. *sigh*

I know your saying “WHY?!?!”

It’s not hard to explain. I missed him and his guidance and his voice. It won’t be the same thing this time around, I can’t promise that but I can be optimistic about it.

Just thought I would update my readers, without you I’m nothing =]. I really appreciate all the love (questions on my formspring) about the whole Zeus situation. Some of you even told me you were following the blog like it was a book lol thank you.

xoxo TiffaneyDanielle

Perfect Stranger (The Sequel)

*vibration from phone*

Aden

Wow I totally forgot about him. How? After that pleasant encounter I blogged about. I need to place that accent! Anyway, I’m staring at the phone contemplating what I should do. Nothing is stopping me, but I’m scared to answer. Fuck it.

“Hello”

“Your alive!”

I appreciate his corny banter.

“Yeah, just been kind of busy” or something along those lines.

“Oh ok”

He can tell that I’m lieing, but is treading carefully. He can’t question me directly without being too forward. *sigh* the joys of having a vagina (sarcasm). The conversation is mildly entertaining. We didn’t talk about school, family, age, etc. The conversation went to the Healthcare Bill to food to kids, as in me asking him if he had any. I didn’t do it directly, but it was asked. The convo wasn’t as boring as it sounds..seriously. Ok maybe a little, but a tiny bit.

Still patiently waiting to see where this goes…

xoxo TiffaneyDanielle

Mrs. Lonely

Why does this suck so much?

Being alone sucks. It sucks because I have to look at couples all day. I’m not as bad as my friend Gabbi tho…she despises couples. But back to me! I have to look at couples who think they’re in love all day (see article: Why does everyone think theyre in love). Its only annoying because life gets boring without a partner. You want to go to the movies, but you have to pay your own way AND go alone. You wish someone would take you out, but that ends with a trip to Mcdonalds and about 4,000 calories. I mean I don’t NEED anyone, but it sure would be nice to have someone during these cold winter months.
I even found myself wondering about finding someone on campus, that’s how you know its bad. I told myself I would never date a Howard man, but look at me now. And please no! I don’t want a nigga. I’m done with that phase of life. Niggas were fun, but you can’t build anything with a nigga.
This sucks.period.
And even the ugly dudes try to play you, even though you make it crystal clear you don’t want them. They still try. I’m not going to say any names but this one guy who got shut down was still trying. Told me that he wanted to hold me like I wanted to be held. Hahahaha no nigga you want to hold me like you want to hold me. I don’t even want you to touch me. I was embarrassed for him, until I realized wow he just doesn’t get it. Some guys are just sad.
But I have to go now my pretties…gotta start getting ready for class.

xoxo TiffaneyDanielle

A Male’s Perspective ~ 5 FRIENDS EVERY WOMAN HAS…

I found this on a website a few days ago..just wanted to know if you feel that this is true..leave a comment =]

No one ever said dating was easy. Just when you think you’ve found the perfect woman, along come her friends to complicate your happiness. When dealing with your burgeoning relationship, it’s important to understand that there are five friends that every woman has, and will continue to have throughout your courtship. Read on to get a glimpse of their unique (and occasionally terrifying) characteristics. You need to understand their role in your girl’s life and the life of your relationship.

The wild friend from university
On the surface, your girlfriend’s wild gal pal from university appears to have nothing but an up side. She knows the bouncers for every bar in the city, she enjoys making out with random women and she never wears underwear. What could possibly go wrong with that? In a word: Everything. When she finally manages to pry your girlfriend free, she’ll try to teach her that monogamy is just another dirty word and that commitment is a sign of weakness. The key to surviving the wild friend from university is to never let her out of your sight. She might not appreciate your scrutiny, but just think of all the chicks you’ll get to watch her swap spit with.

Value to her: This friend every woman has can help your gal recharge her batteries with a carefree night of table dancing and tequila shots.
Value to you: Your girlfriend will be grateful she’s in a stable relationship the morning after.

The best friend they secretly hate
As sure as the sun rises in the east, every woman has a best friend they secretly despise. On the surface, they get along famously and are seldom apart, but as soon as they’re in separate rooms, they can’t stop bitching about each other. Everything this “friend” does rubs your girlfriend the wrong way — from the way she parts her hair right down to her new jacket, which incidentally is either 1) So last year’s style; 2) More expensive than anything you’ll ever be able to afford for her; or 3) Exactly the same jacket your girlfriend bought last Tuesday. Of course, she’d never say any of this to her face. After all, they’re best friends.

Value to her: Women love to gossip, and the best friend she secretly hates provides her with the ideal target for all of her pent-up venom.
Value to you: Getting your girlfriend worked up about her so-called friend can momentarily distract her from your own shortcomings.

The desperately single friend
Also known as “the fat friend,” the desperately single friend has gone dateless for at least two presidential administrations. Although essentially a decent person, this friend’s self-fixated, woe-is-me attitude has the potential to bring even the most raucous of celebrations to a painfully grinding halt. The bad news is that you never want to appear overly happy in her presence — the good news is that her sour attitude ensures you never will.

Value to her: Desperately single friends tend to be ideal companions since their empty social calendars make them loyal and dependable.
Value to you: The desperately single friend’s despondence over her nonexistent dating life will make your girl cherish your relationship even more.

The guy friend
Whether he’s a former flame or flamboyantly flaming, among the five friends every woman has is a guy friend, and chances are their tight-knit bond predates your relationship by at least a decade. He’s there for her when you’re not, and if you don’t play your cards right, he’ll make you look like the most insensitive knuckledragger on the face of the planet.

Value to her: One part sociologist and two parts zoologist, the guy friend can offer your gal insight into your often baffling behavior.
Value to you: Don’t feel like taking an intensive 10-week ballroom dancing class? No problem! The guy friend will gladly step in as a surrogate male companion while you sit at home balancing Cheetos on your ever-expanding belly.

The best friend
There is no driving a wedge between your girlfriend and her best friend. Chances are they’ve known each other since childhood, and for all you know, they may even have a suicide pact. Your girlfriend’s best friend is her true soul mate and confidante. She sends her greeting cards “just because,” and she’s been there through every single romantic encounter and emotional breakup. She knows things about you that you don’t even know yourself, and she knows secrets about your girlfriend that your girlfriend wouldn’t even reveal to her psychiatrist. This is precisely the companionship Aristotle had in mind when he said: “Friendship is a single soul dwelling in two bodies.”

Value to her: The best friend is the single most important female friend every woman has, next to her mother. She’s there for her through thick and thin, and she helps her with all of her most important — and many of her most trivial — life decisions.
Value to you: Your girlfriend’s best friend can be an excellent companion who can offer you startling insights into the female psyche. She can also end your courtship in the blink of an eye. If you want your relationship to last, it pays to keep your girlfriend close and her best friend even closer — no, not that close.

Courtesy of Askmen.com

xoxo TiffaneyDanielle’