I wanna be: By Tiffaney Danielle

Edgy like her

With his lip ring

With her boots

With his swag

With her hair

With his bag

With her tattoos

With his attitude

With her friends

With her bong

With his connections

With her major

With his rhymes

With her moves

With his everything

And

With her everything

Don’t sit here and tell me you don’t hate yourself when all you want to do is copy every single FUCKING move that he or she does.

xoxo TiffaneyDanielle

It’s Your Fault Too

The mother in me came out this morning when I hopped on Facebook. I clicked the “most recent” button, mine always seems to have 300+, and was horrified to see a picture of a naked girl put up by this boy I went to high school with. I clicked the photo and reported the picture, I didn’t realize you could only click it once *sad face*. But I was horrified for this girl. True, she shouldn’t have sent the picture but that was wrong as hell.

I have a love/hate relationship with the generation before my generation. Due to the fact that we weren’t just born this way. Someone had to teach/preach us the wrong things. For example, I would never let my son get away with the bullshit my brother did. My son would be at military school some damn where. But, my parents just took the L for every mistake, fight, weekend jail run, bad report card, hidden child, alcohol caused mishap, etc.

I also love how my generation gets the short end of the stick every time a record comes out. My parents like to say “That is crap, yall don’t know what music is.” but then say “They stole that from us…they need to thank us for that beat.” Which one is it? Are you mad about the song or do you want to be compensated? Everyone keeps saying, it’s only going to get worse. With an attitude like that, yes it will. Don’t blame us for your shortcomings in the home, because your too lazy or don’t want to be bothered with your own kids. That’s not how it works.

Yes, a portion of the blame can be put on the individuals. But, you saw a change in your child. And, since the parents are psychic, shouldn’t the parents be able to stop it? I always hear “You not slick, I did it before.” Ok, so you knew how his behavior was going to be? But their parents weren’t crazy, they knew exactly how to stop all that craziness. So, many parents are trying to be their child’s best friend when they need to concentrate on being a damn parent.

Just something on my mind.

xoxo TiffaneyDanielle

No one asked you…

“Why compare yourself with others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you.”

“

I was on my way to the yard today to sell a book to a fellow HU student when I saw my friend Courtney*. She big chopped over the summer and was wearing her TWA. I saw her, greeted her, and told her I liked her hair. Which was the truth. My friends saw her, greeted her, and kept it pushing. We got about 10 feet from Courtney and all of a sudden:

Friend #1: She looked better with long hair.

Friend #2: Yeah, she did.

Friend #1: I’m just saying, any hairstyle would have looked better than that one.

Me: Damn, I’m glad y’all didn’t say that in front of her. I’m also glad I didn’t cut my hair and show ya’ll.

Do you realize how hard it is for girls to wear their short natural hair and not care what others think? Speaking from experience I can say that before I found the confidence in myself, I would have rather worn an ugly weave than my TWA. Newly natural girls don’t want to hear that they would have looked better if they kept their damaged, over processes, breaking, thin hair.

Before I finally said to myself “Your opinions don’t matter.” “You’re going to talk about me anyway.” and “No one asked you, so shut the hell up” I was self-conscious.

Maybe I’m sympathetic because I understand what she went through, or even what she still might be going through. But it’s just sad, because on this campus if you aren’t natural you are the minority. It’s also sad, because the tables can be turned to easily. Oh trust and believe, no one is invincible and everyone has a weak spot.

xoxo TiffaneyDanielle

Shrinkage

I know I’m not the only one who despises hair shrinkage. It might be fun to see how much it stretches out to check your length, but the journey is a strenuous one. It almost makes it not worth it…almost.

So I have been scouring the internet trying to figure out a way to stop the madness. I’ve seen one on youtube that had yogurt and coconut milk, but yea I’m a college student so I’ve been on a suave-vo5 budget. Plus I have braids, so I don’t really have to rush into things. But I don’t want to try this method.

THAT’S MY PUFF FROM THE TOP VIEW

I’ll be home before I even know it, and you know what that means! No? Well I guess you’ll just have to wait for me to blog about it. ;-]

xoxo TiffaneyDanielle

Leaving the nest

I’ve been apartment shopping for a week now. I know! I am not financially able to consider the possibility of moving out of my parents home. But the thought is nice. Everyone is out there living independently and I’m over here begging for ten dollars just to wash my clothes. I can handle living on my own, I just need a real income. (I work part time at a clothing store)

However, I’ve established my credit. I’ve had my credit card since I was 18 and I have been paying on it to build my credit. Only now its different, because my mother is helping me with some of those payments while I’m in school. I envy those who have left the nest, because I still have to hear “Where, Who, When, Why”. Doesn’t it matter? I’m grown.

I’ve had a wonderful home life, but its annoying keeping up this front with them. I get noise when I lock my door..seriously? Why can’t I lock my door..I’m 20. What’s off limits to me, that I would want to do alone in the house with yall? Exactly.And its not like I have a history of doing reckless things, I’m the good child lol. But what can I do until then except wait?

Patience is a virtue.

xoxo TiffaneyDanielle

Coffee, Toast, and Aggravation..

This morning I was putting my curtains back up..no problem right? Wrong.
I had to nail the rods back in so duh! my curtains could go back up. My mother sleepily stumbles into my room and asks what I am doing. I tell her putting my curtains up..she says ok and crawls back into bed. Five minutes later my father comes out yelling at me saying it to early to be hammering.

Fun Fact #1: It was about 7:30 am
Fun Fact # 2: My landlord hammers, drills, and everything else @ about 7:30 am.
Fun Fact #3: They never ever complain about the landlord doing house work early in the morning.

So..after I tell my fatha ok can u let me finish I only have 1 nail to hammer and he says OK..my mother comes back out and says Tiff! Its too early to be hammering..wait and do that later.

Ugh get me the fuck out this house…so then..

She wanted me to clean my room last night because my relatives are visiting and I’m getting my new bed today. I fell asleep..cuz my body told me to. So she gets up to start her day and she gets mad lyk..Why didn’t u clean ya room last night..blah blah fuckin blah..

Fun fact #1: my room is already clean
Fun fact #2: they haven’t arrived yet [the movers or the relatives]

so why is she mad? So I’m like they not even here yet. She says oh watever I don’t wanna hear your logic. Wtf?? You just bein dumb then.

Floating thought- Now that my room is clean and after the movers deliver my bed..who is gon be all up in my room? No one. So who does it matter to my relatives.

So then she says some smart little comment..i ignore her and continue to daydream about going back to college..

xoxo TiffaneyDanielle’